Most children will throw a tantrum at some time in their lives. Children throw tantrums because they are frustrated with restrictions. So parents need to be prepared for handling a tantrum.
Here's what to do when you see one coming:
- From nine to 18 months, you might see sudden bursts of tears or crying. Children might throw themselves on the ground, stiffen their bodies and clench their fists. Redirect or distract your child to another activity. Or pick him up and gently soothe him. Sit with him in a quiet place until he's calm.
- From 18 months to three years, you might see screaming and crying, throwing objects or lying on the ground flailing arms and legs. Redirect your child's energy (as above) or ignore it. If her tantrum is serious, carry your child to a safe, quiet place. Remind her she's "out of line." Stay close until she's calm.
- From three to six years, you might see the same as above, plus demands, physical resistance or maybe some biting or hitting. Give a clear warning that this behavior is unacceptable. Remind your child of the consequences for continuing. If he doesn't listen, remove him to a quiet room and say, "When you've calmed down, you may join us."
Source: Dathy Levinson, First Aid for Tantrums, 1997, (Saturn Press, 17639 Foxborough Lane, Boca Raton, FL 33496, 516/477-6602),1-885843-04-6
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